Family Mediation – Family Mediation at Distance –
Collaborative Divorce – Collaborative Separation
Family Mediation and Family Mediation at Distance
Married spouses, common-law spouses and those who have a civil union may choose to negotiate and to settle the issues and the consequences of their separation by undertaking family mediation. The topics discussed and negotiated may be the parental authority, the sharing of time between the parents and their children, the child support for the children and the special expenses related to them, the division of the family patrimony, the division of other assets and debts, and spousal support, also known as alimony. What is said in mediation is confidential.
The fees of the mediator are paid by the ministry of Justice in the following cases:
- 5 hours of mediation, including all the time past by the mediator for the work done outside the sessions, for parents who have at least one common dependent child and do not have a judgment nor an agreement;
- 2 and a half hours of mediation, including all the time past by the mediator for the work done outside the sessions, to modify a judgment or an agreement for parents who have at least one common dependent child; and
- 3 hours of mediation, including all the time past by the mediator for the work done outside the sessions, for couples without a common dependent child.
Above and beyond the above-stated hours, the fees payable by the parties to the mediator are $110.00 per hour for the time in mediation sessions and all the work done by the mediator outside the sessions.
During the mediation sessions, the parents/spouses share information, bring the pertinent documents, communicate their needs and those of their children, evaluate the options brought at the mediation table, the whole to be able to take enlightened decisions and negotiate amicable agreements. A mediator is impartial and acts as a facilitator. Once the parents/spouses have concluded their final agreements, as mediator I thereafter prepare and draft the Summary of Mediated Agreements that I read, sign and give to each of them. That document is in fact the result of their agreements and it ends their mediation.
Separating and divorcing is obviously not easy. It entails restructuring and reorganizing the spouses/parents’ life and the children’s life. There are legal aspects further to a separation. Since I am a lawyer, in my role as a mediator I can give legal information to the parents/spouses in order to help them in their decision making; but in order to maintain my impartiality I cannot give them legal advice or legal opinions.
As a family mediator, at one and the same time I have to manage the conflicts of the parents/spouses while assisting them in resolving them and reach a settlement. Therefore, moving gradually from a confused situation (which expresses itself in many shapes and forms: such as uncertainties, unknowns, doubts, misunderstandings, misinterpretations, preoccupations, fears, anger and sadness) to a more stable situation when those states of mind have been addressed and have been either lessened or eliminated. This then allows to have a dialogue tracking down options and choosing from them the solutions. The more the spouses/parents cooperate, the more they will be able to have a win-win agreement.
As a mediator, I offer a structure and a framework enabling the parents/spouses: 1) to define the needs and the interests from which they want to negotiate, 2) to move towards the evaluation and the study of options, and 3) to choose amongst those options their solutions.
Good reasons to choose family mediation
It’s what you think is best for you and your children
Decisions taken in light of the children’s interests and needs
Decisions taken in light of the spouses’ interests and needs
To maintain your parental image
To maintain your parental relationship
To share information
To communicate documents
To have private and confidential negotiations
To negotiate in the presence of a mediator
To benefit from the impartiality of the mediator
The mediator is a facilitator
To have a structure and a framework in which to negotiate
Free mediation up to 5 hours or 2 hours and a half for parents having at least one child under their care, and 3 hours for couples without a common dependant child
To share the fees and the disbursements owing to the mediator
To empower yourself in the decision making
You decide your own solutions, not the judge
To settle amicably
To have custom-made agreements
To regain harmony
To regain peace of mind
To avoid legal procedures
To minimize the legal costs
To avoid court delays
Not having the stress of preparing to go to court and going to court